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Leading with Lollipops


As Drew Dudley explained in this TedTalk, we can understand the true and actual meaning of leadership, which is misunderstood in our society nowadays. Many people also believe they cannot be leaders that easily and that leadership needs "a level of arrogance and cockiness that we are not comfortable with." However, leadership is not that complicated nor that hard to do, it can be as easy and as simple as giving someone a lollipop and telling a silly joke. This is Drew's explanation of leadership. Drew was told a story by a student in university on his last day working there, where she explained to him how much important he was to her even though he wasn't sure who that girl was and when he ever communicated with her. Turns out that this girl was extremely hesitant about the university and was about to leave and go back home with her parents until she saw Dudley. He was carrying a bucket full of lollipops and giving them to each one in the line, and he stopped when it was her turn, and looked at her for a while. He then gave it to the guy in front of her and told him he needed to give it to the pretty girl behind him. Then made a joke about that to her parents, and everyone laughed including her. Only these two actions made her really comfortable and she knew that she was in the correct place and shouldn't leave. Only because of what Drew did, which was to give her a lollipop. In addition, this guy also changed the shy boy that was in front of her, only by making him give her a lollipop, later on, they became together, which is almost for 4 years! 

Drew's talk explains that people can change people's lives because a very simple action can have such a hugely positive effect on them, even though they themselves might not know it because of how simple that gesture was. And that is "leading with lollipops." 

Everyone at least has one lollipop moment, a moment that their simple actions have helped others dramatically and them not knowing they did. An example of a lollipop moment that happened from a long time ago was that the boys in my class were joking and had a silly debate between two classmates in our class and choosing the strongest between both and who they'd take his side. Even though that was a joke, one of the guys that the debate was about got uncomfortable and annoyed that no one was sticking up to him even though we were all together since JK, which was almost 5 years. Jokingly, I took his side and said that I wouldn't let anyone annoy him. However, this small action was very meaningful and effective for him and even though I didn't feel like I did such a huge thing, he and his mother called me and thanked me at the time I didn't understand why where they thanking me for. Later on, after I thought about it I realized that this very small action and sentence I said that was mainly a joke meant so much to him and made him feel like he has a friend that he could depend on. 


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